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How best do you think he can heal from this?
What advice will you give? Share your comments
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Hmmm. Its kinda hard to decide or advise but i'd say this from experiencing how devlish and manipulating some humans can be to you for three decades. Theres high chance hed be subscribing for more hurt if he does not let go especially when hes no longer interested in the woman. The woman has the authority over the child. Lastly, everyone in the world is disposable when the time comes but fortunately time heals. My experience.
First let's thank God it's very early when he discovered, I'm not in his shoes and I can't know how he feels but there is something he should know of he should still keep the child the woman will still be in the picture and might later end the guy life, the best is for him to leave the woman and the child.
God will do his own, in the long run if he father a child that is not his own, he might live to regret it when ghereal father how's up and pick up his daughter unapologetic.
Let the man move on and try to see the child when he has the chance but if he can let him stay away because its not good for him to kesp sesing the lady around because of the daughter. its hard but he has to accept reality and do the needful
Just be real to yourself because being hurt now would heal but pretend to move along would damaged him In the future.
Honestly if you watch those Paternity shows you'd see men breaking down, having a mental and emotional breakdown because of this same issue. I believe he should seek help probably see a Therapist or councilor to help him deal with this. I've heard of some men commiting sucide in such a situation
The maturity of accepting facts is part of the realities an adult must adjust to. If he abandons that child and the mother now, which is the best thing to do, his sorrows would dwell in the short term and vice versa if he takes the other way and kowtows. The brotha should bear in mind that the possibility of fathering more stowaways with that woman is high enough and the likelihood of stowaways reuniting with their biological fathers are on the high side. Oga should save himself now if he does not wish to see himself in the future dragging father title at someone's wedding.
Moving on may not be easy but when situations warrant it, one has no choice, not moving on may cause more damage in the long run. He needs to weigh his options and go for what's best for his life. Good decisions are not meant to be sweet all the time but they are worth taking
This matter is so complex that the first thing your friend should know is that no advice from here is easy.
secondly, he should not afford to show weakness so this situation doesnt break him forever making him a sad man.
Thirdly, he must weigh this situation not on what he is feeling now but on the long term implications.
fourthly, I am proposing some questions that will likely help him make a better decision:
a. Can the love you have for your foster daughter afford you the strength to work things out with your wife?
b. Do you think divorcing your wife will bring you healing? search yourself and work the maths out, if it will den the child will be fine without you
c. Do you think being with that child without the mother will bring any iota of consolation? personally i doubt.
d. do you think in the absence of the mother you are the best thing for that child? keep your feelings out of this one, becux to answer this question properly you cannot afford to be selfish.
Conclusion
I really think these boils down to two great and painful decisions you have to make and that is why you are a leader. It is either you look beyond the hurt and make your marriage work or you move on and never look back.
my suggestion is, seeing that you are confused in this situation shows you have invested so much emotionally to let go not only your daughter but failing to admit even your wife, i think you should look beyond the present hurt and let this rough experience unite you even more to your wife and your daughter. enjoy your forever of ever soothing forgiveness.
shalom 🕊️
This has different angles that should be looked at critically before any action can be taken. Firstly, how old is the marriage and when was the child conceived? It could be that the lady has been faithful to the man for all the while that they've been married. Some ladies tend to have what i call a closure sex with those that they are involved with before marriage.
Its also possible that the lady doesn't know that this child is not for he husband, that's if the child was conceived before the marriage. If this is the case, then i will advice he has a conversation with her and continue loving the child and the mother and God's willing, she will give him his own blood someday.
In a situation where the child was conceived after their marriage, for his mental health, i will advice him to end the marriage and see a therapist that will help him to live past this difficult time. He can always continue spending time with the child but the sooner he had the conversation with the wife, the better for him.
My opinion though.
Very difficult situation indeed! I think he needs to sit & come to an agreement or make an offer with the lady & which is – let’s end this amicably , without noise , I will cover your shame & keep this between us . But in return, you must allow me to remain a part of my “daughter’ s life. Involve a few ‘key’ individuals , sign documents to seal it. He can then focus on healing & moving on… It may sound easier said than done but I think it’s worth trying .
My advice to him simply, is just for him to weigh what is most important to him, if he can afford to forgive the lady, just to stay with the baby, i advice he does that, and try and see how he sort out things with the lady, so that he can trust her in the long run.
I think he can continue to be a father to the child, my only issue is the wife, would he be able to trust her again, can he truly forgive her? If he can't trust her anymore, he can't enjoy love in his marriage, so would he sacrifice his life for this, because he still has a lot ahead of him. A marriage built on deceit, most times would not stand. If he can come to some form of conclusion with the wife to get a divorce and still be in the child's life, he should go for it. I pray God gives him the wisdom to make the right decisions.
Men Men Men!!!! This is a serious warning, Make it an act and culture to always do DNS test for your child immediately the child is born from the hospital, it saves a whole lot of future trauma, even child swap in these hospitals, do not listen to any emotional statement from any human being. As for the man, I will suggest he puts away his emotions and think straight, he is being too emotional here, He should ask him self these questions
1. Is he adopting the child as his own or he just want to take the child because he is emotionally attached ?
2. If the real father now comes for the child now or in the future, will he refuse to give the child to her real father? Or will he tell the man he is emotionally attached ?
He should avoid future heartbreak and let the woman and the child go.
God will give him is own child too.
Peace.✌
I will advice he seek out ways to understanding what led to this top secret by the woman,
2. Let him seek out therapy to find understand where they both are in the marriage, this i mean to ascertain if in the midst of there is still an atom of love.
3.if he still have that initial love for her then let him forgive her, this the biggest healing tool for this kind of heartbreak.
4. He should consider the future of that child he so love, he should possibly stay for because of the child and seek out ways to get the best out of the entire situation.
Omo if he loves the daughter so much I go say make en because of the daughter forgive the wife cuz we all humans and deserve forgiveness
Therapy simple. Therapy to let go. He didn’t fall in love with the child in one day so he won’t let go in one day either. It’s going to be a process as long as it’s gonna take. So slow detachment it could take years and during the process let the child understand every step of the way. And all this got to happen without the mother’s knowledge. Might seem like a plot of a crazy drama but this is quiet a unique situation.
I dont know what the laws in Nigeria are on this kind of things but He's legally the child father. He is the only father she knows. If theres a law that can alow him full custody of the child and be sperates from the woman, he should pursue it.
That women's actions are in fact a danger to the child.
Any decision would have it consequences, it is his decision to make but d child deserve to know (later age) and great daddy- daughter relationship is special to every girl even if she is not blood/biological.
Not all women are of this world. Including the kids, they bring into this world. She most likely is succubus or some other evil spirit planted into that man's life to derail his destiny.
The fact that he's so confused about what to do means that the woman has sucked any life or sanity left in him.
God help him.
That is hundred and fifty percent a criminal act.
She should be sued or jailed.
Something should sha be done.
He should let both the child and mother go because the biological father of that child might reclaim her later on. It is better to face the complete pains now than wait to face it later.
I think he should know the child's father, and if he would come for the child, if not, he shuld legally adopt her as his
It’s very sad 😞 that this man is in this situation. No one deserves this level of deceit both the man and child. We have had this debate on our YouTube channel few years ago…. DNA testing during pregnancy 🤰🏽 is very crucial (we know it’s a sensitive topic) but some people in the world have become so crazy!!!
Women who indulge in this paternity fraud act is pure evil!!!! 👿 creating life trauma for both the men (victims) in their lives & the innocent children in this mess!!!!
-Firstly, we commend his bravery to open up to you, Lasisi & ask for advice… he is a good man with good intentions for the 4year old child!!!
-Our question is does he know who the wife had this child for? If yes, he needs to have that different conversation with his wife….. why would she do such a thing & what lead to it
-lastly, since he says he loves the 4year old girl, we suggest he follows his heart 💜 & take a decision that will give him peace of mind but not at the expense of his mental health/wellbeing. We wish the man all the best.
This is a very good one Lasisi and I agree with you. People need to be prosecuted for this inhuman act.
I have a cousin that is going through this and he only told me what is going on. He provided everything for her and her family. He don’t lack anything and I mean anything. He can give his soul to her but she did him dirty. He is in therapy now plus alot of bp medicines and mentally unstable.
I always pray to God for restoration in his life.
Myself I am scared to marry like this because all the girls out there ehh, Na God go save person oo.
Country hard, leaders corrupt , insecurity and now this..
Person go run mad for this country.
Me I am very tired of all this bullshit.
It is ver painful 😢
He should move on,if he stay with them,the real owner will come some day and he will be able to live without the child that time