Intimate business: his luck, his stress, of Funke EgbeMode

Sometimes, a woman finds herself at a destination for which she had not planned, a place where she did not expect, nor rose aboard a bus or the plane. He wakes up and finds himself there, a totally new place in which he must learn a new language, new coping skills and a different way of life. What should it do, especially when the new place brings with it both luck and challenges?

Let’s start with a woman who married a young, brilliant and medium income when they were both junior managers in a bank, and then 20 years later, becomes a traditional sovereign! Two decades in the banking sector mean that they had gone very far, traveled and were already trying to become executive directors or even something bigger on the directors’ floor. Who has an idea what a traditional sovereign in Nigeria entails, Africa implies? The difference between being a regional director of a bank and becoming a wife, mother and queen is like the distance between Lagos and Australia.

Taiwo is overwhelmed. Yes, he knew that his husband was a prince, but he never thought that the real rotation would go so fast in their lives. But two kings died in rapid succession, and just like that, her husband was chosen by Royal House and the oracle to go for a step in the shoes of his ancestors.

‘We both were building our careers and thinking about our business in our corner of the banking world. We had had our part of the troubles of the couples, but nothing close to that weekend when the elderly of the family and the Kingmaker came to deliver their real message. Of course, we started with shock, denial and resistance. So when they left, the topics began, followed by tension, confusion, more topics and even ultimatum. “

Why you?

Couldn’t they have chosen your uncle, an older prince?

And the children, their schools?

Do I have to follow you at home?

Taiwo was faced with the option of staying in Lagos and losing his place and position in his husband’s life. A yoruba king is incomplete without his queen or queen. The latter part was a great concern, serious problem. Yoruba Obas tends to keep the harems. First of all, traditionally inherits the wives of the kings of the deceased, that is, if they are alive and live in the building. The details of the inheritance are the real secrets, how many wants. So it can get married more. After all, he is the “husband of the city and the second in command of the creator”. However, here is a banker, now an olori, in the face of difficult decisions that change life. He does not want to stop working or ending his career. He does not want his husband to turn his back on his inheritance, but does not wait to become “Iya Wa” or the elderly Olori with the young Oloris who takes up and down the building and stealing the house he built.

Yours has sincerely two friends who are Oloris. I also have friends who are traditional sovereigns, two of the wives they opted to live out of the building, giving in their queen thrones to New Queens. It is a difficult choice for a woman. Our traditional stools are abounding and some of them do not want to share the occupants of the stools with their wives. So what is your advice for a doctor, banker, politician whose husband suddenly becomes a king? How do you move from the life of the city to the slow and tranquility of the countryside and to the “bed sharing”?

The wedding of a friend has just graduated from the “separation” to divorce because her husband has decided to obey the “call on her life” to move to the ministry full time. ‘Yes, I am a Christian but I’m not ready to be a shepherd’s wife or the mummy, we had been on this question for years and I had always told him that the rigor of following a shepherd everywhere was not one I wanted. Could it be a shepherd, but full time? NO! It would mean that I collected the family bills, dropping some ways of life to which I am already used to, being constantly under control, fasting and almost permanently that lived in the church, but insisted on the fact that the call had become too strong to be ignored. “It was so that my friend moved abroad. He is unhappy. He is unhappy. The wedding is almost finished. How is a woman recommend in one case like this?

What about where the young man in difficulty you married is good. A year, you are discriminating and saving the rent and in just five years, you moved to a five -star estate and you spent luxury car? A wife should be happy and thank her stars, right?

This also comes with its challenges. This rich husband is almost never at home and the women who jump and the eyelids are a different story.

Those who are not doing Juju are using every known and unknown female cunning to take him away from you. So the “poor” wife wakes up one morning and there are amorous children in the mix and curved women are parading like the other “lady”. To worsen an already ugly case, a couple of those desperate women are the daughters of the benefactor of her husband or commercial partners, men who do not want to be wrong. Well, the wife feels bad and oppressed.

What should a wife expect if your husband finds wealth in advance? What shouldn’t do, think or consider? How do you like that wealth without depression and hypertension?

The politician’s wife. It already seems the title of a book or a film, a life of the drama. Are you smiling or shaking your head? It is the envy of many women, even men. Her husband is powerful, connected and influential. It is the great hostess whose house is Haven for men and women who are removals and agitators in its community, state or in the country. But there is private pain, the tears with which the cushions is wet for those who are her husband. Her husband is busy, almost never available even when she is sitting right next to her. Her libido is falling because she is worried, she says, but she believes it is because she is using many websites outside.

How will you recommend exactly a woman whose changed status of her husband throws her deep into the swimming pool when she has never thought she ever needs to swim?

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Re – The problem with all the truth

I agree 100 % with the article. Men show off their previous escape (my children told me that he is currently called body count) as a validation of their ability to commit themselves. Unfortunately, they also love a virgin of “tear” or manage a lady who can pretend that no man dug them but lost his virginity during the final tournament at the long -lasting Olympics.

Women should be wise. Please don’t tell graphic details to your past even if your man has provided his 10 -page detail. Unfortunately, it is the world of men. His previous escape is defined as a “honorable of honor” while yours is a “shameful” past!

Men are selfish. A widower on average replied two or three years after his wife’s disappearance. Unfortunately, a widow may not have another opportunity, unless God intervenes.

Our women should be wise.

Tunde.

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